One thing I’ve realized when I moved here, I’ve quickly adjusted and changed into the happy Californian I used to be.
Then for some reason, more recently, I hit a slight bump and lost myself. Spending time in somewhat of a social isolation feeling like I was missing something and not really caring to what other people said to me or felt. Hell even the friends I’ve made here said I was acting different. Been a jerk, been lame, been antisocial and all I could do is say (in my head of course) “please shut your noise hole before i staple it shut”. Ok that sounded a little mean but rest assured that’s the mild version unlike for a select few I would have (and every now and again still want to) deck clear in the face aiming for a K.O… I mean it’s hard enough to figure yourself out while everyone else is “making theories” of why you’re acting the way you are, or pointing out the obvious “you haven’t been yourself”, or even better— claiming they actually know you based off select moments of your time with them… And then dumping their problems and beef onto you, whether you’re directly involved or not. So yeah I was frustrated and delayed in trying to figure myself out.
It took a bit but thankfully due to a visit from an old friend from back home, I had a revelation (a drunken one, but a revelation nonetheless), I’m homesick. And not just the definition of missing my home, I miss the old times. Where I had all my friends within walking distance of my house, where we could all just meet up and hang around talking constantly and carrying out conversations. I miss telling people “hey let’s hang at my place” and a small get together would become a party in my basement. I miss making stupid vids with my friend Joel, who is one of the main reasons I wanted to be in the film industry. I just miss it all.
But I can’t really go back to it. It’s just nostalgia on high gear. People moved on, got on with their lives. I shouldn’t be stuck in my past. I should be enjoying what I have now. I gotta keep my promise to live my life.
I have an apartment with 4 awesome friends I was fortunate enough to meet this past school year. I have a job which is exhausting but comes with really chill people who I really need to get to know better. And I’ve made friends that— though I wouldn’t take a bullet for them (if that was the case I did something wrong in choosing friends who are apparently wanted dead)— but do care about, even if I don’t show it 100% of the time.
More importantly, and the main reason for this post, I’m no longer in this funk of trying to re-find myself.
Im going to continue what i was doing when i got here in august. I’m going about it day by day without a plan, I’m going to enjoy each day whether I work, go on a random adventure or even sit on my ass and recover/rest… Like today, since I barely got any sleep the past few days (thanks to my old friend Ash… And my new shift times…).
And I’ll try and be a little more considerate to certain people, show some respect and be nice— i guess.. If i have to…key word is TRY—like I was brought up. But I’m also going to continue doing whatever sounds the most fun. With no regrets, and ignoring the negative judgment from others about it. I’ll continue to share my things, provide hospitality and generosity to friends.
And this has now become rambling, I’m going to wrap this up before I start saying stuff like: Free love, Cuddle buddies, and world peace.
Whatever happens, happens, I’ll just go with the flow because it is what it is.
And that was a crappy attempt to be quoted when it doesn’t really make sense unless your brain is on the same chaotic, and sleep deprived page as I am.
I’m going to try and sleep now